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Do Kids Make Women Less Happy in Life?

Facinating read from Maureen Dowd:

Marueen Dowd

Marueen Dowd

In the early ’70s, breaking out of the domestic cocoon, leaving their mothers’ circumscribed lives behind, young women felt exhilarated and bold.

But the more women have achieved, the more they seem aggrieved. Did the feminist revolution end up benefiting men more than women?

According to the General Social Survey, which has tracked Americans’ mood since 1972, and five other major studies around the world, women are getting gloomier and men are getting happier.

Before the ’70s, there was a gender gap in America in which women felt greater well-being. Now there’s a gender gap in which men feel better about their lives.

Dowd goes on to mention studies that show that women with children are less happy, on average, than those without.

When women stepped into male- dominated realms, they put more demands — and stress — on themselves. If they once judged themselves on looks, kids, hubbies, gardens and dinner parties, now they judge themselves on looks, kids, hubbies, gardens, dinner parties — and grad school, work, office deadlines and meshing a two-career marriage.

“Choice is inherently stressful,” Buckingham said in an interview. “And women are being driven to distraction.”

One area of extreme distraction is kids. “Across the happiness data, the one thing in life that will make you less happy is having children,” said Betsey Stevenson, an assistant professor at Wharton who co-wrote a paper called “The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness.” “It’s true whether you’re wealthy or poor, if you have kids late or kids early. Yet I know very few people who would tell me they wish they hadn’t had kids or who would tell me they feel their kids were the destroyer of their happiness.”

The more important things that are crowded into their lives, the less attention women are able to give to each thing.

Is the maternal instinct self-defeating? What do you say, ladies?


Pepsi advises men on how to score with women

Pepsi has created a storm of controversy for itself, and a lot of bad p.r. Marketers for Pepsi’s energy drink AMP (a beverage targeted primarily toward men) created an iPhone app, which stereotypes different women and offers advice and pick-up lines with the aim of helping guys “score” with each different type of woman.

Pepsis AMP up before you score application

Pepsi's "AMP up before you score" iPhone application

There’s advice for bookworms, girls on the rebound, even – so I hear – for how to score with a married woman. Wow, that was well thought through, Pepsi. Nice job.

Will the National Organization for Women organize a boycott? I might have to join them on this one. Ah, misogyny – the marketing tool of self-destructive corporations. It says something, however, about our culture that this could have been considered a good idea by any corporate marketing team.

Pepsi is backpedaling hard on this one. But I wonder how many gals will switch to Coca Cola.

Yale men target Yale women in vulgar email

Earlier this term, news came out that some male students at Yale had published an email, describing new young freshman girls in vulgar terms and ranking them according to sexual most wanted list:

University administrators are investigating an anonymous e-mail circulating through the Yale undergraduate community that ranks certain women in the freshman class based on their physical attractiveness.

The e-mail message — which was originally sent from an anonymous e-mail account — came to the attention of administrators and freshman counselors earlier this week after first being circulated among athletic teams and fraternities. Titled “The Preseason Scouting Report,” the message lists the names, hometowns and residential colleges of 53 freshman women, who are organized into categories based on appearance. Some of the names are accompanied by vulgar commentary on the students’ Facebook photos or Facebook profiles.

The e-mail classified the women into several categories, including “sobriety,” “five beers,” “ten beers” and “blackout,” based on perceived degree of desirability. Some are also given “overall grades” of “HIT” or “miss.” (The News obtained the e-mail but is not reprinting it in full to protect the privacy of the students named in the message.)

I was reminded of this controversy from a couple weeks ago when I read a separate story today in the Yale Daily News, which commemorated the 40th anniversary of coeducation at Yale. Check out the paragraph under the heading “Popular Girls.” Some things never change.